Every Friday afternoon, Chase’s teacher asks her students to take out a piece of paper and write down the name of four children with whom they’d like to sit the following week. The children know that these requests may or may not be honored. She also asks the students to nominate one student whom they believe has been an exceptional classroom citizen that week. All ballots are privately submitted to her and every single Friday afternoon, after the students go home, Chase’s teacher takes out those slips of paper, and places them in front of her and studies them. She looks for patterns:
– Who is not getting requested by anyone else?
– Who doesn’t even know who to request?
– Who never gets notices enough to be nominated
– Who had a million friends last week and none this week?
Chase’s teacher is not looking for a new seating chart or exceptional citizens. Chase’s teacher is looking for lonely children. She’s looking for children struggling to connect with other children. She’s identifying students who are falling through the cracks of the class’s social life. She is discovering whose gifts are goig unnoticed by their peers. And she’s pinning down – right away – who’s being bullied and who is doing the bullying.
~Glennon Doyle Melton’s blog, Momastery